Tahdhib al-Akhlaq

This is an article composed by Brother Yusuf al-Hanbali, I have posted some lectures by him also @ www.gems.mypodcast.com

IMPORTANCE & VIRTUES OF MARRIAGE

Our Beloved Messenger (saw) had said,

“Whoever marries has then completed half of his Deen, now let him
Fear Allah (SWT) for the remaining half.”

(BAIHAQI in his SHU’ABUL EEMAAN. Sheikh Albaanee
[rah] Stated “Hasan” in his SAHEEHUL JAAMI No 443)

In an almost identical report our Beloved Messenger (saw) had said,

“Whoever marries has then completed half his Eemaan, now let him
Fear Allah (SWT) for the remaining half.”

(Sheikh Albaanee [rah] Authenticated it
in his SAHEEHUL JAAMI No 6024)

SubhaanAllah – thus marriage is half of one’s Deen and Eemaan!!

However, it is the pious wife that is being referred to here for our Beloved Messenger (saw) had said on another occasion,

“Whoever Allah (SWT) provides with a pious wife has then been
Helped concerning half his Deen…”

(TABARANI, HAAKIM, BAIHAQI,
AL-HAITHAMI in MAJMA AZ-ZAWAA’ID,
TARGHEEB, KANZUL UMMAL Vol 16 Page 116)

Indeed, our Beloved Messenger (saw) had said,

“Whoever loves, hates, gives, withholds, and marries for the Sake of
Allah (SWT) has then perfected his Eemaan.”
(TIRMIDHI – “Hasan”)

Our Beloved Messenger (saw) had said,

“Whoever marries for the Sake of Allah (SWT) will then be (honoured
By being) crowned with “Taajul Mulk” the Crown of the Kingdom
(ie on the Day of Resurrection).”

(ABU DAWUD, MISHKAAT & Others)

Our Beloved Messenger (saw) clarified further when he said,

“Poor man, poor man, the one without a wife – even if he is rich.
Poor woman, poor woman, the one without a husband – even if she
Is rich.”

(RAZEEN, TARGHEEB & Others)

Our Beloved Messenger (saw) had instructed his Ummah,

“Marriage is my Sunnah.
Whoever does not follow my Sunnah then does not belong to me.”

(IBN MAJAH. Sheikh Albaanee [rah]
Authenticated it in his AS-SAHEEHAH No 2823)

In a different wording he (saw) had said,

“Marry!
For I (saw) want to be delighted by my numbers (ie of my Ummah).
Don’t practice monasticism like the Christians.”

(BAIHAQI. Sheikh Albaanee [rah] Authenticated it in his
SAHEEHUL JAAMI No 2941 & AS-SAHEEHAH No 1782)

In another report it is related that our Beloved Messenger (saw) had enquired from a Companion whether he had the means to get married, when he (ra) said yes (ie but had not married) then the Holy Prophet (saw) said to him,

“Then you are the brother of Shaytaan!”
(AHMAD in his MUSNAD)

Indeed in another report our Beloved Messenger (saw) had said,

“Allah’s (SWT) Curse is upon men and women who do not marry.”
(KANZUL UMMAL Vol 16 Page 167)

Such is it’s importance that our Beloved Messenger (saw) had said that in the Unseen world,

“Every morning 2 Angels (as) call out,
“Woe to men from women!
Woe to women from men!”

(IBN MAJAH, HAAKIM, TARGHEEB No 1623)

We ask Almighty Allah (SWT) to preserve us from all abomination – Ameen!!

THE INCREDIBLE WORTH OF A RIGHTEOUS MALE AND FEMALE

Before marrying our Beloved Messenger (saw) had instructed,

“Make a good choice for your seed.
Marry worthy (women) and marry them (to worthy men).”

(IBN MAJAH, HAAKIM & Others.
Sheikh Albaanee [rah] Authenticated it in his
SAHEEHUL JAAMI No 2928 & AS-SAHEEHAH No 1067)
Indeed, such is the worth of a righteous female that our Beloved Messenger (saw) had said,

“All the world is an aid (ie from which you can benefit), but the
Best aid is a righteous wife.”

(MUSLIM in his Sahih No 3645, NASAA’EE & Others)

Interestingly, our Beloved Messenger (saw) had also conversely said,

“All the world is an aid, but the best aid is a righteous husband.”
(TABARANI)

In another report our Beloved Messenger (saw) had clarified what true wealth entailed when he (saw) had said,

“(True wealth is) A grateful heart.
A remembering tongue. And;
A Believing wife who helps one of you upon the affairs of the
Hereafter.”

(TIRMIDHI No 3904, IBN MAJAH No 1856, AHMAD & Others)

In another Narration our Beloved Messenger (saw) had further clarified,

“The best woman is she who bears many children, is loving,
Comforting and tolerant – provide she has the fear of Allah (SWT).

And the worst of your women are those who display their charms
And swagger in their walk – they are indeed hypocrites.”

(BAIHAQI in his SUNAN. Sheikh Albaanee [rah] Authenticated it
in his SAHEEHUL JAAMI No 3330 & AS-SAHEEHAH No 1849)

Further clarifying, our Beloved Messenger (saw) had said,

“Good fortune is to have a righteous wife, spacious home and good
Transport.
Bad fortune is to have an unrighteous wife, cramped home and
Unreliable transport.”

(AHMAD – “Sahih”, TABARANI, HAAKIM,
BAZZAAR, IBN HIBBAAN – “Sahih”, TARGHEEB No 1634)

With regards to the male folk our Beloved Messenger (saw) had said,

“The best of men are (indeed) best to the women.”

(ABU DAWUD No 4682, TIRMIDHI No 1162 – “Hasan”, AHMAD)

In a slightly different wording our Beloved Messenger (saw) had said,

“The best of you are kindest to his wife – and I (saw) am the kindest
Amongst you to my Wives (raa).”

(TIRMIDHI No 3895, BAIHAQI 7/468)

Our Beloved Messenger (saw) had also informed the males,

“Spending on your wives is better than giving Sadaqah to beggars.”

(MUSLIM in his Sahih)

Conversely, our Beloved Messenger (saw) instructed the females,

“Service to your husband is (just like giving) Sadaqah.”

(KANZUL UMMAL Vol 16 Page 169)

It is related that a woman (raa) enquired from the Holy Prophet (saw),

“Men have taken all the rewards!
They offer Congregational Prayers, the Friday Prayer, they visit the
Ill, they offer the Funeral Prayer, they perform the Hajj and they
Fight in the Path of Allah (SWT) – how are we to compete?”

He (saw) answered,
“Inform the females that good treatment to their husbands and looking
After and obeying them entitles them to all these rewards!”
The woman left glorifying Allah (SWT).”

(BAIHAQI 6/421)

And finally, one should be patient and overlook the faults of one’s partner for our Beloved Messenger (saw) had said,

“If a husband shows patience with his wife he will then get the reward
Of Ay’yoob (as).
(Similarly) If a wife shows patience with her husband, she will get
The reward of Pharoah’s wife (ie Hadrat Aasiyah [raa]).”

(DHAHABI in his KABAA’IR)

All Praise be to Allah (SWT) Lord of the Worlds!